Novella Liyawarman

Apartheid had made everything need to be categorized. Being half black and half white was not cushy and I can't imagine what would I do if I were him. He learned how to entertaining his self, read books, play with the toy that he had, and make up imaginary worlds. Ppl said, Great things never came from comfort zone" maybe this kind of magic world had happened to him when kid. He found that language can solve his problem. How you communicate will show who you are. He can speak 6 languages and it made him easily making a friends in black or white. Cool kid! How many language can you speak profoundly? I also learn from his memoir if language can shape the way you think. 

So many stories about how he learned from past and tried to make some improvement for next decision. His mother really shaped the way he think. Pretty much, all of this memoir are about his mother. Fiercely lady who taught him freedom. She shown him how to wipe the pain quickly. She would say, "but don't cry about your past. Life is full of pain. Let the pain sharpen you, but don't hold on to it. Don't be bitter." Her ability to forget the pain in life is beyond amazing. 

I still remember same values that I got from Mark Manson's book if Pain serves a purpose. Surprisingly, all the books that I read are connecting each other LOL. Never let the memory of something painful prevent you from trying something new. 

Could you imagine for living in a place where you couldn't meet your parent because of law? It was happened to Trevor. His father is white and he lived in Apartheid. There was a time when he never met his father for a long time and found out that his father had collected all of his achievement from news paper on scrap-book. I hold my tear when read this part. Felt a flood of emotions rushing through my mind. His father never forget him for a second and I thought all of parent will do the same. Maybe we can feel this emotions when having a kid. LOL. (yang rebel siap-siap kena kualat sama anak haha). 

Missed his dad so much and he already made list of question that he wanted to ask. And his father told him "Why are you interrogating me?". LOL! He learned if relationship is not an interview. You should spend time with someone you love and then you come to know them. Time is everything. 

No wonder why he is so witty and all his Daily Show made me cry cause it's just funny. His mother taught him to stop drama in life. There was a moment when he got bullied with his black friends and came home with full of bloody-red-berry on face. His mother said "You're not hurt. You're hurt emotionally. But you're not hurt." LOL. It made me realize if a merry-maker is a good faker. They should pretend to be happy 24/7 but deep down maybe they have many life-love-problems. HAHAHA. His mom taught him if everything was funny. There was no subject too dark or too painful for her to tackle with humor. 

So many values that you can get after read this book. For me the biggest one is : We don't know what have happened in someone life at the back, we just see his/her glamour life. Keep hustle, everybody has their own timeline. And stop drama! HAHAHA. 

Here are some favorite part/quote that I love from this book : 

• You must be careful who you surround yourself with because where you are determine who you are
• If you talk to a man in a language he understand, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart
• If I don't punish you, the world will punish you even worse. 
• I grew up in a world full of violence but I myself was never violent at all
• When you love someone you create a new world for them